Have you ever done an “Oracle” on a book? It is something I do when things don’t seem straightforward or when I fail to see the bigger picture. Sometimes it really works to take a moment and reflect. It is really simple. Take any personal development book that inspires you or a book with quotes or sayings and open it on a random page with the belief that the page in front of you gives you the message for that day. You may be amazed at what you find.
Earlier I opened a little book I treasure on the page that said the following:
Looking out of the window dashed my last hopes of holding onto summer. School has started and the cardigans and coats re-appear from the wardrobe. If that wasn’t enough confirmation of a season change then visit the seasonal isle in the supermarket and you won’t have to search long for mince pies and Christmas crackers. I remember my father getting quite down at this time of year, always sighing “all those leaves have to fall of the trees and then they have to all grow back again!” I guess he felt like this season change was an upwards struggle of colder temperatures and dark evenings. Now, I am not jumping for joy at the prospect of hot chocolates, boots and scarves, but I try and take the season change and somehow turn it into something positive. This is the last chance to set goals for 2012, make a plan and turn this year into something worth remembering. This is the last chance to change gear and tick things off your to do list and realise some dreams and expectations.
The great thing about setting goals at this stage of the year is that it is a short term commitment of less than 3 months. Although I always advocate to think creatively and outside the box, with a short time span I would advise to go for something that is definitely within reach. Ask yourself the following questions:
Be kind to yourself and limit your wish list to one or two things that –with a stretch- you can make happen. Break the months and weeks down in to bite size chucks and set yourself a to do list to get closer to the goal you want to achieve, or allocate time for it each week. Don’t let a week pass without taking a small step towards your goal.
The goals we set for ourselves and linger around in our heads as a “wouldn’t it be great, if…” are the least likely to become fulfilled. Write your goal up and put it in a place where you can see it every day. Phrase it in such a way that upon seeing your goal you feel motivation and excitement and make sure it is a goal that makes you DO something. Avoid words such as “hope” but be certain that the goal you set is going to be actualised. Examples are: “to lose half a stone”, “to exercise 3 times per week”, “to research a career change”, “to eat healthily Monday-Friday”, “to acquire 2 new clients”, “to relax and create Me-time every week”, “to invest into my social life”, “to focus 3 hours a week on personal development” etc etc. Share your goal with someone who can enquire regularly about your progress.
Lastly, it is a fact that we are so much more capable than what we give ourselves credit for. Put your mind to how good it would be to come to the end of the year having achieved what you set out to do. Believe in yourself and go for it.